She acts very withdrawn from everything, including the family. She sleeps a lot which I know is a defense mechanism but as her daughter makes me angry. I want my mom to get mad and act like she's fighting. Instead she lets dad baby her (because he does not know what else to do) and whimpers around. I shouldn't be mad but my mom is already gone. She's withdrawn from the world, family, everything but is still here. She might as well be gone.
I realize what makes me angry and it's the victim role she puts herself in. She is acting like a "victim of cancer". I want her to be a fighter, the mom I've seen fight all my life but not lately. It's a fine line I walk, I can't get mad at her and avoid her but if I'm around her and she acts meek then I get angrier.